There are very few, if any, ‘right’ decisions.

We don’t like admitting this because, darn it, what separates my success from your success?  It better be my right decisions and effort.

As we scurry around collecting data (which is infinite in nearly every direction) to make major decisions – ultimately what we do is make snap judgement calls once we’ve reached a point of agony.  The indecision becomes too much to bear.  Leading up to that tipping point, we call ourselves prudent and responsible.

Closer to reality is that ‘right’ decisions might actually be suboptimal over the long run.  Meaning, the ones where we were busy agonizing over data and, then, most everything played out accordingly teach us nearly nothing.  They mostly make us stubborn and enhance our blindside.

In contrast, lots of ‘wrong’ decisions that allow theory to become a real-life experience likely create a body of work that is far more rich.  More wisdom, higher quality relationships, and yes, likely more money.

The push back on this might be that some decisions are irreversible and are too significant to one’s life.  Being whimsical is too costly.

I’d agree.

Should I marry?  Should I have children?  Should I change careers?  Take the promotion?  Retire now or later?

Collect some data – of course.  Sit on it and let it marinate.  Acknowledge your knee-jerk, but don’t let it steer the ship.  Also, don’t force.  Maybe sail the boat, rather than row it.

Looking for the right answer isn’t the place to be.

You could give all your money away or hoard it all – and you’ll deal with the agony of two sides of the same coin.

Retire now or wait another 2 years?  You’ll never know how the other scenario plays out.  We need to get over the fact that ‘right’ isn’t the objective. 

The objective is freedom – not the right answer.  And, further, righteousness seems to be one of the final chains of ultimate freedom. 

If I can’t place my decisions in the buckets of right or wrong, then what makes me different from you?  Not a lot, and that’s something we don’t like to hear very much. 

But total acceptance: choosing, trusting, and learning is a better wealth building technique than trying to make the right call.

Thanks for reading,

Mitch

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1 Comment

  1. Mark S on April 9, 2021 at 11:54 am

    Excellent as usual. My 18 year old is currently struggling with his most important decision, to date; maybe first real decision. Where to go to college…thanks for continuing to share your writings.

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